Covet thy neighbors. . . Iphone? “Miracles are a retelling in small letters of the very same story which is written across the whole world in letters too large for some of us to see. C.S. Lewis
Monday, August 04, 2008
Thou Shalt Not. . . .
Covet thy neighbors. . . Iphone? Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Overheard. . . .
Saturday, July 26, 2008
Let the Adventure Begin!
F.Y.I.
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
My Gas Tank Made Made Me Do It
Sunday, July 20, 2008
What a beautiful story!
Many of your have gushed about these incredible photo's that I've pasted up all over my site. Unfortunately I don't have ANY around my house because I can't choose. I want them all and I want them HUGE! (Tres chic let me tell you!) Like a SHRINE to Sophia! Many of you have also commented that if money weren't an issue, you'd gladly fly your child to Florida to have their pics taken by this genius who makes your children look as adorable as you believe they are. So I had to share some of the magic behind the scenes. Do you recognize this man?
If you think he looks like the autistic victim in Law & Order than you definitely don't have kids. Look closely parents-if you have a child between 1-5 you have a chance? Now imagine him in a green stripped rugby & khaki pants? Still nothing? Now picture him with an animated little dog. Yep--that's him Steve, from the original Blues Clues!Friday, July 18, 2008
"Are you a super-hero daddy?"
During a lull in the conversation the other day a little voice piped up from the backseat. "Are you a super-hero daddy?" It was adorable and completely caught him off guard. Nate's taken several days off to help me update our kitchen, just a little paint & new wood floors, but it's enough for me to consider him a saint. In fact, I may have gushed about daddy being a superhero. She certainly isn't interested in super-hero's unless SuperGrover counts? Saturday, July 12, 2008
Art as Inspiration as Decor

Decor As Inspiration from Architectural Digest
Other Spaces
Set Design: Something’s Gotta Give
Setting the Scene for Romance in the Hamptons
Production Design by Jon Hutman/Set Decoration by Beth Rubino
Text by Nancy Collins Published July 2007
For
“The house had to reflect Diane’s character, who is a very successful, accomplished New York playwright in her mid-50s,” says Meyers. She is also a divorcĂ©e, following a 20-year marriage, who built her Hamptons house as “a gift to herself—no compromises—just her total vision of a peaceful life. Naturally, it’s a different mind-set than that of a woman who has been single or is part of a couple. There was no chance, for instance,” she chuckles, “that she was going to put a double sink in the bathroom.” Nor, for that matter, include an office. “The desk in her bedroom signifies she’s romantically shut down, in a stage of life where nothing’s going to be going on in the bedroom, so why not have a desk?”
The enthusiasm that went into the building of Diane Keaton’s unlikely love nest was matched only by the melancholy that came with tearing it down.
In other words, she is exactly the kind of dame primed for a romantic upset—who arrives in the form of music mogul Nicholson—“a chronic dater of young women,” says Meyers—who, upon showing up with Keaton’s daughter, Amanda Peet, for a Hamptons weekend, proceeds to collapse and get rushed by his hostess to the hospital, where his doctor happens to be Keanu Reeves. “It’s about people who know what the future holds—then find out it doesn’t, like Jack and Diane, who are falling in love late in life. This house is their desert island. If he hadn’t been stranded, he would never have noticed her.”
Though their five-room “island”—living room, dining room, two bedrooms and kitchen—originally called for a beach cottage, Meyers ended up “doing an elegant house, where I would like to live, with the feeling of ocean everywhere.” As a result, the interiors are awash in sea colors and blues. “They wanted me to go with white slipcovers,” says Meyers, “but this woman would say, ‘I don’t want slipcovers like everybody else.’ She was determined to be at the beach.”
Nancy Meyers’s most pressing conundrum was how to keep her film, an hour of which takes place in five rooms, from feeling like a stage play. “It’s about depth of field, constantly looking from room to room, out a window, believing the beach is beyond,” Meyers explains. “In one scene, where Jack is in the bedroom and Diane stands in the doorway, you see past her into the living room and kitchen. You shouldn’t feel claustrophobic.”
“Hamptons houses that size have space, simplicity and a certain austerity,” adds set decorator Beth Rubino, who, along with Meyers and production designer Jon Hutman, scouted hundreds of Long Island homes before settling on a Southampton beachfront (used for exterior shots only) that Rubino calls their “visual barometer.” “Nancy wanted a house that looked decorated,” she continues, “so we created something wonderful and homey, but chilling”—a feeling Nicholson picked up on when he first visited the set. “During wardrobe fittings,” re-calls Meyers, “I could see Jack was going toward shorts and polo shirts. So I said, ‘Let’s take a look at the house where you’ll be spending time,’ and as soon as we got there, he said, ‘Oh, I get it. No shorts.’”
It wasn’t Nicholson’s only melding with his make-believe environment. “Jack is a great art collector,” says Meyers, “and when he saw the original piece over the living room fireplace, he said, ‘You don’t have any of the great beach art,’ and turned us on to Edward Henry Potthast,” whose whimsical sand-and-umbrella landscape “is the centerpiece of the room. You don’t see it much, but its presence is felt.”
Presence is all when moviemakers are trying to make what is not real—seem so. For starters, movie homes automatically feature the permanent accoutrements of a camera and crew, whose accommodations require space and mobility, like the kitchen’s islands, easily zoomed around on casters. During her survey, Meyers noticed that all fabulous Hamptons houses had “blowout kitchens”— as does the director herself. “There’s a lot of action in the kitchen because lots of scenes in my life take place in mine, which, like the movie’s, is a little too big.”
“Diane’s character loves to cook, so we had to have a practical, functional kitchen,” says Rubino, “that could also hold a lot of people.” Even so, Meyers preferred to keep her walls right where they were. “I don’t like to take down walls because you always think, Where did that wall go? How did that camera get inside the refrigerator? I like to keep things real-looking.”
Which was no problem for the self-admitted perfectionist Rubino, an Academy Award nominee for
Take, for instance, the 3,000 books that Rubino shipped out from New York’s Strand Book Store. “Writers are passionate about books, so you don’t just get a collection of spines, you arrange them as an evolution of what Diane was reading: Is she interested in perennials, native beach plants, self- help? In the bedroom, where she’s working on a play, it’s all reference books. Though you only see books shot by shot”—indeed, a mezzanine loaded with tomes, categorized foot by foot, goes virtually unnoticed—“it builds depth for the set, making a very rounded environment for the actors.”
For her part, Meyers called friend and playwright Donald Margulies, demanding: “Tell me what’s on your desk,” a request that elicited a “highly detailed e-mail.” As a result, when the cast took their initial walk-through of their new “home,” “we had Diane’s plays, hardbound, sitting on her desk, along with scrapbooks filled with her clippings. Beth even sprayed suntan lotion around so they’d feel they’d just come in from the beach.”
When it came to the dining room, Rubino and Meyers reserved the place of honor for the 70-inch round table designed to adapt to a specific 360-degree shot. Nearby is a wall of plates, “beautiful but absolutely colorless except for one that has a little color, as Beth pointed out to me one day,” recalls Meyers. “Well, in the movie, Diane’s character collects beach stones, and there’s a scene where Jack indicates that they’re all white. She says, ‘I don’t collect only white. Oh, God, I didn’t know. Does that mean I’m controlling? Not adventurous?’ So he hands her a big, dark brown stone, saying, ‘Here’s something to remember me by.’” Art imitating art, perhaps? “Well, it made us laugh.”
The women’s collective sensibility was not lost on Diane Keaton. “Diane has a brilliant eye,” says Meyers. “I showed her the house empty, then with furniture, and both times she went crazy, which was great for me because it wasn’t really her taste.”
Clearly, Meyers and Rubino were exquisitely in sync. “Nancy is very involved in the visual process,” says Rubino. “She approved every fabric, every shape.” Upon hearing this compliment, Meyers laughs. “That’s code for ‘She’s a pain in the butt.’ But if you’ve spent a chunk of your life writing a character and someone puts them in the wrong clothes, or in a bed with sheets you know she would never own, it’s as if someone’s written dialogue. Sometimes you pick up more from what you’re seeing than hearing.”
The enthusiasm that went into the building of Diane Keaton’s unlikely love nest was matched only by the melancholy that came with tearing down fully appointed rooms where, for two and a half months, people lived and worked. “It’s horrible,” admits Meyers. “People say, ‘Go watch them tear it down,’ but I can’t. It’s simply too sad.”
Unlike
“The house had to reflect Diane’s character, who is a very successful, accomplished New York playwright in her mid-50s,” says Meyers. She is also a divorcĂ©e, following a 20-year marriage, who built her Hamptons house as “a gift to herself—no compromises—just her total vision of a peaceful life. Naturally, it’s a different mind-set than that of a woman who has been single or is part of a couple. There was no chance, for instance,” she chuckles, “that she was going to put a double sink in the bathroom.” Nor, for that matter, include an office. “The desk in her bedroom signifies she’s romantically shut down, in a stage of life where nothing’s going to be going on in the bedroom, so why not have a desk?”
The enthusiasm that went into the building of Diane Keaton’s unlikely love nest was matched only by the melancholy that came with tearing it down.
In other words, she is exactly the kind of dame primed for a romantic upset—who arrives in the form of music mogul Nicholson—“a chronic dater of young women,” says Meyers—who, upon showing up with Keaton’s daughter, Amanda Peet, for a Hamptons weekend, proceeds to collapse and get rushed by his hostess to the hospital, where his doctor happens to be Keanu Reeves. “It’s about people who know what the future holds—then find out it doesn’t, like Jack and Diane, who are falling in love late in life. This house is their desert island. If he hadn’t been stranded, he would never have noticed her.”
Though their five-room “island”—living room, dining room, two bedrooms and kitchen—originally called for a beach cottage, Meyers ended up “doing an elegant house, where I would like to live, with the feeling of ocean everywhere.” As a result, the interiors are awash in sea colors and blues. “They wanted me to go with white slipcovers,” says Meyers, “but this woman would say, ‘I don’t want slipcovers like everybody else.’ She was determined to be at the beach.”
Nancy Meyers’s most pressing conundrum was how to keep her film, an hour of which takes place in five rooms, from feeling like a stage play. “It’s about depth of field, constantly looking from room to room, out a window, believing the beach is beyond,” Meyers explains. “In one scene, where Jack is in the bedroom and Diane stands in the doorway, you see past her into the living room and kitchen. You shouldn’t feel claustrophobic.”
“Hamptons houses that size have space, simplicity and a certain austerity,” adds set decorator Beth Rubino, who, along with Meyers and production designer Jon Hutman, scouted hundreds of Long Island homes before settling on a Southampton beachfront (used for exterior shots only) that Rubino calls their “visual barometer.” “Nancy wanted a house that looked decorated,” she continues, “so we created something wonderful and homey, but chilling”—a feeling Nicholson picked up on when he first visited the set. “During wardrobe fittings,” re-calls Meyers, “I could see Jack was going toward shorts and polo shirts. So I said, ‘Let’s take a look at the house where you’ll be spending time,’ and as soon as we got there, he said, ‘Oh, I get it. No shorts.’”
It wasn’t Nicholson’s only melding with his make-believe environment. “Jack is a great art collector,” says Meyers, “and when he saw the original piece over the living room fireplace, he said, ‘You don’t have any of the great beach art,’ and turned us on to Edward Henry Potthast,” whose whimsical sand-and-umbrella landscape “is the centerpiece of the room. You don’t see it much, but its presence is felt.”
Presence is all when moviemakers are trying to make what is not real—seem so. For starters, movie homes automatically feature the permanent accoutrements of a camera and crew, whose accommodations require space and mobility, like the kitchen’s islands, easily zoomed around on casters. During her survey, Meyers noticed that all fabulous Hamptons houses had “blowout kitchens”— as does the director herself. “There’s a lot of action in the kitchen because lots of scenes in my life take place in mine, which, like the movie’s, is a little too big.”
“Diane’s character loves to cook, so we had to have a practical, functional kitchen,” says Rubino, “that could also hold a lot of people.” Even so, Meyers preferred to keep her walls right where they were. “I don’t like to take down walls because you always think, Where did that wall go? How did that camera get inside the refrigerator? I like to keep things real-looking.”
Which was no problem for the self-admitted perfectionist Rubino, an Academy Award nominee for
Take, for instance, the 3,000 books that Rubino shipped out from New York’s Strand Book Store. “Writers are passionate about books, so you don’t just get a collection of spines, you arrange them as an evolution of what Diane was reading: Is she interested in perennials, native beach plants, self- help? In the bedroom, where she’s working on a play, it’s all reference books. Though you only see books shot by shot”—indeed, a mezzanine loaded with tomes, categorized foot by foot, goes virtually unnoticed—“it builds depth for the set, making a very rounded environment for the actors.”
For her part, Meyers called friend and playwright Donald Margulies, demanding: “Tell me what’s on your desk,” a request that elicited a “highly detailed e-mail.” As a result, when the cast took their initial walk-through of their new “home,” “we had Diane’s plays, hardbound, sitting on her desk, along with scrapbooks filled with her clippings. Beth even sprayed suntan lotion around so they’d feel they’d just come in from the beach.”
When it came to the dining room, Rubino and Meyers reserved the place of honor for the 70-inch round table designed to adapt to a specific 360-degree shot. Nearby is a wall of plates, “beautiful but absolutely colorless except for one that has a little color, as Beth pointed out to me one day,” recalls Meyers. “Well, in the movie, Diane’s character collects beach stones, and there’s a scene where Jack indicates that they’re all white. She says, ‘I don’t collect only white. Oh, God, I didn’t know. Does that mean I’m controlling? Not adventurous?’ So he hands her a big, dark brown stone, saying, ‘Here’s something to remember me by.’” Art imitating art, perhaps? “Well, it made us laugh.”
The women’s collective sensibility was not lost on Diane Keaton. “Diane has a brilliant eye,” says Meyers. “I showed her the house empty, then with furniture, and both times she went crazy, which was great for me because it wasn’t really her taste.”
Clearly, Meyers and Rubino were exquisitely in sync. “Nancy is very involved in the visual process,” says Rubino. “She approved every fabric, every shape.” Upon hearing this compliment, Meyers laughs. “That’s code for ‘She’s a pain in the butt.’ But if you’ve spent a chunk of your life writing a character and someone puts them in the wrong clothes, or in a bed with sheets you know she would never own, it’s as if someone’s written dialogue. Sometimes you pick up more from what you’re seeing than hearing.”
The enthusiasm that went into the building of Diane Keaton’s unlikely love nest was matched only by the melancholy that came with tearing down fully appointed rooms where, for two and a half months, people lived and worked. “It’s horrible,” admits Meyers. “People say, ‘Go watch them tear it down,’ but I can’t. It’s simply too sad.”
Unlike
Saturday, July 05, 2008
Nate's New Gig. . .
Finally, my husband will be doing something that I can explain to people. Better yet have this guy explain it to you (Yuval Brisker CEO TOA Technologies) after all he created the process. It's official, after eight years of service Nate will be moving from the Duane Arnold Power Plant, in Palo Iowa. His new upscale offices will be right next to Sophia's bedroom, although his territory will include far more exotic locations like-France, Spain, London, Portugal, the Netherlands, California & Florida to name a few. We're so proud of him & thankful that God has made His will so clear during this transition. Thankfully, Nate can take a global job while we keep our roots in Cedar Rapids. This city has been very good to us, after last months flooding we felt like we couldn't leave just yet. Thanks to everyone who's supported us during this transition--and all of our international friends get ready Nate may just be in your neighborhood soon!
Wednesday, July 02, 2008
Black Gold, Oil That Is. . .

Oil is making millionaires in North DakotaBy JAMES MacPHERSON, Associated Press Writer
Landowners in western North Dakota have a much better chance of striking it rich from oil than they do playing the lottery, say the Stohlers. Some of their neighbors in the town of about 120, from bar tenders to Tupperware salespeople, have become "overnight millionaires" from oil royalty payments.
"It's the easiest money we've ever made," said Lorene Stohler, who worked for decades as a sales clerk at a small department store.
State and industry officials say North Dakota is on pace to set a state oil-production record this year, surpassing the 52.6 million barrels produced in 1984. A record number of drill rigs are piercing the prairie and North Dakota has nearly 4,000 active oil wells.
The drilling frenzy has led companies to search for oil using horizontal drilling beneath Parshall, a town of about 980 in Mountrail County, and under Lake Sakakawea, 180-mile-long reservoir on the Missouri River.
"I have heard, anecdotally, that there is a millionaire a day being created in North Dakota," said Ron Ness, president of the North Dakota Petroleum Council.
Kathy Strombeck, a state Tax Department analyst, said the number of "income millionaires" in North Dakota is rising.
The number of taxpayers reporting adjusted gross income of more than $1 million in North Dakota rose from 266 in 2005 to 388 in 2006, Strombeck said. The 2007 numbers won't be known until October, she said.
There are about 1,000 some people in Parshall, a lovely little town on the wide-open expanse, that has been getting a lot of attention recently. Personally, it's the hometown of several family members. On the LONG drive from Iowa to North Dakota, it was also the first sign that we were close to Grandma's! This area is made up of hard-working farmers who've experienced extreme winters and some heartbreaking harvests. I can't imagine a more deserving people.
Tuesday, July 01, 2008
JANE AUSTEN BOOK CLUB

Saturday, June 21, 2008
Helping our Neighbors
Aid to Women a local crisis pregnancy center has experienced extensive damage due to the flood. Water rose higher than expected in our building. All computer equipment, printing equipment, furniture, food, clothing, etc. on the first floor were covered by the flood waters.Friday, June 20, 2008
THE BIG BIRD IS IN THE SKY!
Marine One, the Presidential helicopter is impressive in it's own right. (Just ask Sophia & her friends who waved delightedly at the Presidential convey hovering over Linn & Johnson County's yesterday.) CEDAR RAPIDS CLEANS UP WHAT FLOODING LEFT BEHIND
From the Wall Street Journal
Cedar Rapids, population 120,000, is one of the hardest hit. Last week, the Cedar River swelled out of its banks, covering 9.2 square miles of dry land and forcing the evacuation of 3,900 homes. Most of downtown, including city hall, the police station and many businesses, was shut down. Eight bridges, including Interstate 380, were closed at least temporarily. A railroad bridge collapsed.
The city set up a perimeter manned by police and the National Guard around the most flooded areas to prevent looting and enable teams of inspectors to ensure that homes were structurally sound. Now, those barriers are being moved closer to the river, and more and more people are gaining access to their homes.
"There's no playbook for this," said Brad Novak, a detective with the Cedar Rapids police department who was manning a checkpoint Monday.
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Wednesday, June 18, 2008
How many adults does it take to pottytrain a little girl?
Answer: At least three, in our house and two more on deck to encourage & supervise. Tuesday, June 17, 2008
Rebuilding Our Roots

Saturday, June 14, 2008
Happy Birthday Minga Grace!
Friday, June 13, 2008
CR UPDATE
For our friends & family across the world thank you for your prayers. The Cedar River has crested at 31.2 feet, 12 feet is considered flood stage. 1929 the river flooded at 21 feet, that was the highest flood in recorded history. At the moment it doesn't look like flood waters will recede until next Friday! And more rain is expected! It's safe to say that it looks like the end of the world here! Moving Response from Local Pastor
The following was written by a dear friend of the Ndjerareou family. Erin Bird is the young adult pastor at New Covenant Bible Church in Cedar Rapids, I share his feeling of desolation & isolation from the rest of the world, and pride in my community. Thank you Erin for your words & perspective."This morning the top headline feed on Google News was a New York Time's headline about the flood here in Cedar Rapids, so I clicked to see if anything had developed overnight. I was suddenly awake as I read the insulting New York Times article which almost seemed to mock the people and officials of Cedar Rapids, making it sound as if we had asked for this. Christopher Maag, the author, writes that we were cocky, thinking something like this would never happen. He even chides our forefathers for building our government buildings on an island in the river. Mr. Maag makes it appear we are like the godless people of Noah's time, laughing at the possibility of a catastrophic flood.
But what Mr. Maag barely points out is that the previous record, set twice, was 20 inches. The famous '93 flood didn't even break the 20 inch mark. How could anyone expect we'd break the record not by a couple feet, but by 12 feet? We are surpassing even a 500 year flood. How do you prepare for that? Yet Mr. Maag seems to think that we should have been ready for a 32 foot crest, and to not be ready for that huge of a flood is foolish. For Mr. Maag to paint the people of Cedar Rapids in this light under these conditions does nothing to encourage the people nor point out the resiliency and determination of this community. So let me give a more accurate picture.
Last night I was serving as a "chaplain" at the Red Cross shelter set up at Viola Gibson School. The people I talked with weren't in denial, they weren't feeling foolish, they weren't shaking their fists at God. They were taking this in stride - they weren't looking defeated. One 70-year-old man I talked with lost the home that he had grown up in since birth, and yet there were no tears. He knew that when he died someday, he wouldn't be able to take anything with him, and so his "stuff" wasn't worth worrying about. He just knew he'd have a lot of work awaiting him once he could return to the house. And he was fine with that.
Once the lights were turned out, I headed home. I had heard that they needed sandbaggers at the Edgewood well, so I planned to change clothes and head over to help. But as I was buying water at Wal-Mart, LeAnn called to let me know they no longer needed sandbaggers - so I headed home to stay. As I watched the continuing coverage on KCRG, I saw hundreds of volunteers helping sandbag around Mercy Hospital. They weren't quitting. Even as the flood waters continued to rise, shattering all predictions, the people of Cedar Rapids fought on.
This morning while calling people to recruit volunteers for today, I found out about people who were volunteering through the night yesterday. No one seemed to be thinking it was foolish to keep fighting on. No one is complaining about the water rationing. Even the civil servants of the city aren't complaining when they have to do extra work because of those who held out hope they could stay in their homes.
Perhaps Mr. Maag isn't really in Cedar Rapids. Perhaps he is merely receiving info from other sources (like this really bad article) and he's piecing it together, informing his writing with his perceived stereotype of Iowans. Because if he had spent just a little bit of time with the people I did last night and watched the efforts I saw on the news, I think his article would have a very different tone." Erin Bird
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Water Supply at Critical Level

Unless water demand is drastically reduced a water shortage will occur soon. While water usage has decreased today, consumption must be reduced from 16 million gallons per day to 12 million gallons per day in order to avoid shutting off water completely to areas of the city.City officials are urging residents to use water only for drinking, to use paper plates and avoid doing dishes or running a dishwasher. Residents are also being urged not to flush the toilet after each use, to use hand sanitizer rather than water to washing hands, and to avoid operating a washing machine." Cedar Rapids Gazette
Mother Nature Unleashes Furry On Cedar Rapids
Havlik said some firefighters have been working 24 and 48 hours straight.
Meanwhile, Linn County spokesman Mike Goldberg asked all residents to not travel in or near flooded areas.
Goldberg said the additional two-and-half inches of rain this morning in the Cedar River watershed is adding to the water in flooded areas, because the new water has not been able to drain into storm sewers that now are plugged to prevent river water from running back into them.Goldberg said the additional rain will make the flooding event last longer and make recovery more difficult.
Floods Wipe out Downtown Cedar Rapids

It's so strange to see your own city on MSNBC, especially with pictures like these. It's the type of thing that happens to other people in other places. It's bizarre to see boats shuttling people downtown 1st Ave (Main street Cedar Rapids) And it keeps raining! Right now it looks like the worst of the flooding won't come through till Tuesday! Experts are claiming this is a 500 year flood! It's no surprise that the director of FEMA will be visiting us soon. Right now no one knows the extent of the destruction, that will have to be determined only AFTER the water recedes.
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
Anyone know how to build an ark. . .
But seriously, remember all that snow? Well now it's rain and it just keeps coming & coming. Monday, June 09, 2008
Wanna feel smarter? Part I
“He has all of the virtues I dislike and none of the vices I admire." Winston Churchill
This is one of my favorite quotes. You have to like a person who’d use this line in a sentence? So when Dana gave me an audio copy of Churchill's, History of the English Speaking People. I didn't hesitate. (Typically, I take Dana's tips with a grain of salt--b/c we have such VASTLY different taste.) It's not unusual to hear me stomping down the stairs grumbling something like "THAT WAS A COMPLETE WASTE OF TIME!!" To which my husband responds--"Didn't like the book (or movie?)”
"NO!" I reply and then proceed into a tirade, wondering why I spent several hours of my life on a despondent Cold War spy who finally does something good with his life only to be shot dead on the last page?
Personally, I have enough unnecessary drama in my real life. In my fiction, I like a happy ending, or at least something uplifting, even unique. Dana, on the other hand, appreciates the harshness of real life, or straight fantasy (with our without a satirical twist.)
Wanna feel smarter? Part II
Hang out with my beautiful sister-in-law Deborah! New high school graduate! Congrats Deb! We're so proud of you and LOVE seeing that gorgeous smile! And thanks for sharing your love of lit with me!To Facebook or Not to Facebook. . .
That is the question? Recently, a friend of mine expressed dismay that I wasn't on Facebook. I know that it wasn't personal, just got me thinking. Can I keep up with multiple sites? Do I have anything to share on Facebook? What's the big deal? Am I missing out?
Monday, June 02, 2008
The Secret to 60 Years

"Then in 1965 I went on a weekend silent retreat at a monastery overlooking the Hudson River. We were to silence our voices, the monk leading the retreat told us, in order to hear God’s. “The Latin word for hearing,” he said, “is audire. It’s the root of our English word obedience. To obey God means to hear him.” Obey…this word I’d resisted so long? And rightly, I’m sure, if obey means the imposition of one person’s will on another. But suppose there was an older, deeper, truer meaning. Suppose “love, honor and hear” were, in fact, the best promises any bride could make to her husband.
That weekend I began to grasp how hard it is to hear—really hear! Whether it’s God’s voice we’re listening for or another human being’s, how our own fears, assumptions and expectations get in the way! For a husband and wife especially, they can drown out the voice of the actual person in front of us."




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